Let's Be Honest

I'm kind of fighting with myself about posting this.

I have a love-hate relationship with Facebook.

Thank goodness for Facebook, because without it, I would not have contact with people from my past.  Before Facebook, it was hard work to keep in touch with people who genuinely meant something to you at one point in your life, but as life went on it took you apart.  So, I love Facebook for that.

Thank goodness for Facebook as being a free tool for people to advertise their business.  I have a lot of respect for people who start their own business and work hard at making a living from it.  If this bothered me, I would unfriend the person, or not "like" the business.  Simple.

I like reading what people are up to.

I'm even happy for the people who have found their birth parents, if that's real.  I have this thing where I have a hard time believing every sob story that gets posted on my Facebook. So I don't share many, if any.  But, if they are true, way to go for getting your stories out there.


I hate Facebook as a place to tell your loved ones how you feel.  What ever happened to telling someone in person that you love them?  Do you do both?  Write a big love note publicly on Facebook, then also tell your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/children you love them in person?  Are you far away from the person you're writing this mushy love note to, and if so, can you call them?

I think we should try telling someone to their face, or on the phone how we feel about them.  Don't tell them in a Facebook post, or a tweet, or a text message.  Use your voice! Stop being impersonal.

To be honest, a big mushy, public Facebook note doesn't make me think you love whoever you gave the note to. It just makes me think you want everyone to see what you want to say to them.  If you didn't want everyone to see it, you'd send it in a private message.  Right?

Another scenario could be that maybe that person didn't happen to be next to you when you thought about what you wanted to say, so you posted it on their Facebook, not giving second thought to everyone else who could read it.  And, as believable as the scenario is, it still proves the point that we need to have more in-person contact, and in-person practice with telling people how we feel.

I'll admit, I hate the phone.  And I hate awkward conversations.  But if I love someone, that face-to-face conversation will not be awkward, or the phone call will not be hated by me.


This post brought to you by Valentine's Day, and everyone's public profession of love.